do u like it when people ask about your payout in the job u are?
my fathar says that never ask a person about his age, salary and caste. it can make a person uncomfortable in some situations. so i never ask anyone about these. if someone ask about my salary, then i hesitate to say. usualy i avoid those persons who frequently asks about someone's salary. what about u? can u endure those persons? please share.
[question posted by shibham]
responses and comments:
Hello there! Well I heard that we should never ask a girl's age and the salary of a man because we should not be interferring so much in one's life. If someone ask about my salary too I feel veru uncomfortable because I think they are too concerned about things which are not related to them at all. When someone ask about my age also I do not like it because they have always a comment to make which I have never asked for. [med889]
yah med, u are 100% right. in case of a girl, age is a major factor if she is unmarried. people frequently criticise about her if her age is crossing the married age line. in this world some peoples are more conscious to other lives than their lives. beware from them, they are so nasty by mind. take care. [shibham]
I won't and I don't like it when people ask about my pay in the job and I will never ask anyone else about theirs. Just like what your dad says it will make a person uncomfortable if let say he/she is getting lesser payout than you. [lynnchua]
yes dear friend. this is the main cause that i respect my father heartly bcoz whatever he says, it is proved right by me. thanks for response. [shibham]
Hi, You have a point here. Many people do not like to be asked of their salary particularly those who pretend to be in high profile job but do not get that much pay out feel embarrassed when asked about their salary. Similarly people hate when they are asked about their age and caste. Particularly caste is a sensitive issue. I ask about salary only them who are well aquatinted and close or else I do not ask at all.happy [krajibg]
hi boss, i think your thought about this matter is positive. anyway thanks for response. [shibham]
No,I don't like it because those who ask these questions and love to compare salaries want to know if they earn less or more than you.If they earn more, they are proud of themselves and sometimes become arrogant, if they earn less, they envy your success.My salary is my own business.I'm trying to avoid people who keep asking questions about my personal life, beliefs or salary. [silvercoin]
yes there. that should be better. i also try to avoid the companionship of those person who often ask about someone's earnings. thanks for your response. [shibham]
No, I don't like mentioning how much money I make at my job. I think its kinda personal info that I shouldn't tell everyone. Because I would be afraid they would come back asking for money from me. [chunijole]
ha ha ha............is this a reason behind your motive that u don't want to share your income. anyway i like your reason. thanks dear. take care. [shibham]
Yes. I agree that sometimes i feel uncomfortable when someone asks me regarding our pay or salary and the type of job we have. Its just that we tend to think what will they say or they would look more onto it like how did we get that, he it is suffice to support our basic needs like our bills and expenses, he we are happy or contente and worst is comparing it with others. [flaky03]
hi there, i agree with your comments. thanks for sharing it with it me. take care. [shibham]
Yes. I agree that sometimes i feel uncomfortable when someone asks me regarding our pay or salary and the type of job we have. Its just that we tend to think what will they say or they would look more onto it like how did we get that, if it is suffice to support our basic needs like our bills and expenses, he we are happy or contente and worst is comparing it with others. But most the most important thing is that what we earn and work for comes from our own effort, in a good legal way. [flaky03]
Ya, it's true that asking a person about his salary will make him or her feel some sort of uncomfortable. I personally do not like this either, when someone asks about my salary, i'll just try to avoid that question, or if he insists to know that i'll just give him a rough figure. Just wondering also, is that knowing others' salary can help? or is there anything the person can get by knowing others' salary. Some people even like to make comparison between someone's salary and someone else. Ths even makes me feel irritated when he or she asks this question. So, i think the best way would be just try to talk about other topic to skip that silly question,haha.lol [aikhong]
hi there. there are some persons who often compare their salaries with others and find themselves either envious or satisfied. i think it should not be considered as human behaviour. thanks for response. [shibham]
many persons ask me a lot of questions that i don't want to answer. they all not helpful for me. so i must don't answer them. i must do the things what i want to do. and don't consider what others to say. [fwangaa]
yah friend. thats the true spirit. always follow you heart's speech. who cares to others? thanks for your response. [shibham]
It is very poor ethics to ask a person about their income. If you don't know a person well enough that they've shared this information voluntarily, it's none of your business. If they don't work in the same place you do, they're looking for comparison to bolster their own image. If they do work in the same place you do that is definitely not ethical. Comparing wages among co-workers causes strife in the workplace, and again, it's none of any one else's business. [thebeaddoodler]
yes, 100% true. i have experiences that i am hated by my co-workers due to my pay. so i try to stay without giving any idea to them who always feel enviousness towards me. thanks for response. [shibham]
I think it's incredibly rude, and it makes me grit my teeth. Here it happens a lot. You tell someone your kid got a new job and they'll say "do they make good money doing that?" instead of asking if they like their job. It really is rude, and frankly in this day and age I think anyone is lucky to be gainfully employed. Not everything is everybody else's business. We seem to live in a very nosy age. [SnowWhiteAndSeven]
yes there. i have found some person who like to know what about others having a big zero themselves. they never ask about the satisfaction of job, they are just chasing others earnings to become a rude one. thanks. [shibham]
I don't mind anyone asking me these questions. I usually don't ask someone, unless I'm curious about thier job field and know they're comfortable telling me though. My age doesn't bother me. Of course, once I reach 30 I'm going to stay 29 for a few years lol. When I reach 40, I'll be somewhere in my thirties. Don't have to worry about that for a long time though, I'm only 22. As far as religion goes, I think that's what you're asking... I usually prefer not to discuss that, but if someone's open minded I don't mind a little. Just don't like it when people can't just accept and respect other's beliefs. [xoxcharityxox]
hi there. i appreciate your perception. i think you are an easy going person but this world is too complex than your thoughts. thanks for your respone.lol [shibham]
Many people would say your father is right. It can be viewed as rude. Sometimes if asked, I just say that's information I don't share. Luckily, it isn't something that comes up often. [ersmommy1]
yes friend, it is right that some people don't like to inform those three information as i mentioned. thanks for response. [shibham]
as you said,in my country,it is not polite to ask these that you mentioned above.the best way,you should respect other's privacy and space. [wesley_lu]
hi wesley, u r right. but i think it is not belongs to any country, it is just belongs to human's positive behaviour as u have mentioned that we should respect other's privacy and space. thanks for response. [shibham]
I think it is rude to ask people personal matters. I don't like when people ask me about my age. I don't mind telling about my real age but don't ask me first. It is not me to ask others about their personal lives. But most people are only too willing to be open to me on the personal self. [zandi458]
hi zandi. yah we should avoid them who frequently try to interfere in other's life. i dislike them. thanks for response yaar. [shibham]
Your father taught you right. It is actually very rude to ask people such personal questions. My parents always said never to ask these things, but if they wanted to offer the information that was fine.. but never to ask. It's being nosy, when it is none of our business. [OreoCookie3]
ohh, your parents's teachings and mine are same. thanks for response.lol. [shibham]
No I do not like it when people ask me about my job or my parents job or their age since that is personal information and they have no right to ask. [safraz123456789]
hi there, nobody want to disclose their private matters but some rude people are highly curious to know other's business. thanks for response. [shibham]
Me? I really do not like it when someone asks me something so confidential, especially money. I believe it is inappropriate for you to ask someone about it. As far as I know, it is not anybody else's business how much I earn. So, they should learn to start minding their own business. [jules67]
yes dear friend. it is 100% true that no one wants that someone should ask about their earnings. it is totaly inapropriate and one kinds of misbehaviour. anyway thanks for your response. [shibham]
The question is too personal, so I'd rather not answer a person who often asks about salary. Besides what good it will do to him to know anything about it? I'm not sure what they are thinking. I'm not offended if the question is coming from a family member or from long known close friends, but to hear this from the stranger, its like stripping me off. Although there are cases when it helps, coz if you wish to encourage people to join you in a site the only way to convince them is to show them the proof that you really are earning. I don't force people to join me either, I just tell them there's a great site and I show them my payment proof, if they join then its good if not, then I can't blame them. If its hard to convince your family its harder to win a strangers trust. A salary or wage is far too personal that's why its meant to be kept. Some people don't earn that much eventhough they work hard and its hard for them to accept criticisms or being judged for the amount that they are earning. If this stuff remain hidden, jealousy among co-workers will definitely diminish. [pickoy]
yes u r right.i have no hesitation if any close one asks me about my earnings but if someone asks me just for comparing with him/herself then i can't bear. my salary is my personal matter, i don't like anyone's interference. thanks for your response. [shibham]
I can ask those question to any person but I know the feeling of it and I felt what they are feeling. Somehow, sometimes I don't just bother to ask those question as it gives them uneasiness. I do study person first, when the person is easy to talk with I think I can freely ask the question and they will answer me what answer do you want the truth or the lie and we just ended with laughter. [grecychunny26]
yes friend, we should study someone's mind before asking these type of questions. it helps us better to prolong a good relation.thanks for your response friend. take care. [shibham]
I don't like it when people ask about how much I make from my job. I think that it's a personal information that should not be brought up casually. I actually think that only a few people should know how much you make - it kind of puts a stamp on your forehead and it makes people see money instead of your actual personality once they know. I prefer people asking me if I want to do something for the weekend instead of assuming that I would or would not just because they think I can or cannot afford to go. Thanks for the response on my discussion :) [oyenkai]
hi oyenkai, my thoughts are 100% similar with you. thanks for this similarity friend. [shibham]
Your father is right. You should never ask someone such questions! It's not anyone's business how much someone makes. It's very rude... I find that people won't come straight out and ask what you make, they will beat around the bush to find out. But again, it isn't anyones business. Ask them why they want to know if they ask you, that will shut them up :-) [ddhawkins63]
hi, your idea to stop those stupidities is very good. we should not be concern to others that how much they earn? it is better to be concern about ourselves that how we can earn better with a good utilisation. thanks for response. [shibham]
I do not mind if the person also shares what he earns. At least there is a basis of comparison. otherwise how to improve and know the market rate. However, if the person ask purely for sake of judging, I do not like it and I will just patronize him. [whyaskq]
yah friend, there are some person who often ask someone's earnings just for judging,it is disgusting. anyway thanks for response. [shibham]
I dont like it,either.thumbdownMy mom is a big mouth in my opinion.Once she told one of our neighbors how much I make in a special single day when I get especially early.Long time later,I got to know that when I had some small talks with the very neighbor.I got really mad at my mom.I hate people irrelated know something about my personal stuffs. [sweetyethot]
ha ha ha..... your mother is pussing you to a problem but i think your mother is disclosing your identification to someone being pride with u. as a human being it is natural. thanks for response. [shibham]
It really doesn't bother me at all to be asked how much my household makes a year. I know a lot of people are very private about it. My father is like that but I just don't think its a big deal. I like to know what other people make so I know what kind of jobs pay how much. I could always call the company and find out how much workers are paid but its just easier to ask a friend or family member if they arent bothered by that kind of question. If someone didn't tell me how much they made or was avoiding the issue then I wouldn't ask them again because that would make them uncomfortable. [shaggin]
yes i am agree with you. i also discuss about my earings with my family members, my father also shared his pay with me but i don't like if anyone except my family members ask about my salary. thanks for response. [shibham]
i dont like it either when people asks me how much i am earning from my work... it makes me uncomfortable because they would most of the time make comparisons... but if i am asked, i would reply honestly as to who much i am earning... and then would make a mental note about that person who asked... i dont asks people how much they are earning too, but some of them tell it without being asked... glare, kind of bragging, especially when they have a high salary...rolleyes [jayrene]
yes it is a big opportunity to examine a person by their behaviours. who are with a high salary, they frequently announce their earnings. i dislike them also. thanks jayrene for your response. [shibham]
These are actually the intimate questions that are not supposed to be asked. Well, if anyone asks about the job, it is somehow still acceptable. However, if it already goes down to asking about the salary, then it is definitely personal, and one must not ask it, and one should never answer it. There are still borders to one's privacy, and this privacy is something that is to be respected at all cost. There are however some people who just so not seem to know what respect means, and they just ask as if it were any ordinary questions. I keep myself from asking how much one person earns. However, if it were your son or daughter, then it becomes accessible for the parents to ask, since the parents would know better if the son or the daughter might be in a position where he is being abused or not. [safejunk]
hi safejunk. your thought is 100% right. there are some person who cross the limit of positive behaviour by asking these type of rude question. they definitly don't know the borders of one's privacy as you have mantioned. but parents can ask bcoz they have some moral duties and responsibilities towards us. thanks for response. [shibham]
No! It's not the done thing in the UK to ask about a person's salary. At work there's no need to ask, because of the grading system it is easy to know roughly a person's pay. It can be like those embarassing people who want to know how often one has s*x lolwhistleninja [dreamhealer]
hi there, it does not belongs to UK only, it belongs to any country. and your mentioned issue is also private. thanks for response. [shibham]
Normally i don't ask to people about salary or others things you mentioned!!So yes in some cases it would be uncomfortable and even when a people is not so near you you can think why they ask you as so!! As regards me if somebody ask may be i will answer but normally my answer will be wrong such as not true than in reality really is...so not true informations i will say about salary for example..hehe... [tonyllenium]
hi there, it is better to avoid this question than giving a wrong answer, otherwise u will be considered as a lier. thanks for response. lol. [shibham]
Hi shibham! I hate it when people question my earnings at work. I just tell them that it's not something I want to discuss or I say that's a personal question. It is very uncomfortable because they are usually just wanting to know so they can tell other people too. The only person I discuss my salary with is my boss. It's better that way. [JenInTN]
yah jenintn. i also discuss my salary with my staff. actualy we are well known to each other salary. anyway thanks for response.lol [shibham]
It has always bothered me when people ask "So, what do you do?" It seems like a simple question, but they are usually referring to your type of work. Regardless of what position you hold, I generally do not believe a person is their job. We usually generate income to sustain a lifestyle, we do not have that life just to work. I usually respond to those simple queries with a simpler answer. "So, what do you do?" "Love, learn, seek adventure..." [UtopianIdealist]
yes friend, your answers are positive to those questions. some boring questions are always either should be avoided or just simply be ignored. thanks for response. [shibham]
Yes... I also hate someone asking for my salary, especially those people not close to me... Most of the time I refuse to tell or answer their questions. [lcdelmendo18]
thats better. thanks for response yaar.lol. [shibham]
I don't like it if someone else will meddle with my personal life.I will not like it if he/she will ask about my salary.I don't usually ask about those stuff.I know it'll make some people uncomfortable.especially those who don't earn enough.they might feel inadequate or insulted. [my_name_is_coco]
yes there, i also dislike anyone's intererence in my personal life. yah u r right, if we ask someone about his/her earnings and unfortunately he/she has no earnings way, then they definitly will fell that they are insulted. thanks for your response. [shibham]
I see nothing wrong with asking anyone these questions. In fact, I'm 25, I don't have a job at all, and I guess as far as caste goes... I'd be considered poor white trash! Haha. What is wrong with these things, if someone is uncomfortable with answering these questions to me I'd think they have something to hide! If someone won't answer a question about age... I might make the mistake of cracking open a beer and handing it to a minor! If someone doesn't want to tell me how much they make at their job and then suggests we go out to a nice restaurant, I could find myself stuck with a large bill! If someone won't tell me where they stand socially, I could make myself feel really dumb if I go on a date with them and it's a nice benefit party. Or go to meet their humble family on the farm overdressed! Times are changing, things that were once taboo are no longer inappropriate to discuss. In fact, I find that talking about the taboo subjects has saved me a time or too. My brother wanted to hang out with some seedy people. I was his ride, but I love my brother so I took him over there. Once there his 'friends' started to hit on me. I didn't want to deal with crazy drooling men for the rest of the evening so I simply said 'no thanks, I'm on my period' My brother started to crack up. Even though he was slightly embarrassed that I said that out loud, he also said that he was proud of me for nipping the problem in the bud without starting a ghetto fide yelling match! [dismalgrin]
hi dismalgrin, yah u r not in a job now but when u get a job then i think u will hesitate to disclose your earnings. thanks dear for your response. take care and lol. [shibham]
Well my mother also said that not to ask age or salary of anyone. I joined many social sites, i often got mail about my age and what i do and how much i got per month.But this things didn't annoyed. i told them. [anujain75]
hi, your mother is 100% right as my father. if someone asks me about those things through mail, then i avoid that mail. thanks. [shibham]
I am a private person and I think that salary rate are suppose to be confidential. My friends and I do not compare notes even if we work for the same company and team. It can be a source of disappointment and dissatisfaction in the workplace that could have been avoided if everyone just decided to mind their own business. I don't like it when people ask how much I am making, I usually just tell them that it's confidential and that they don't really need to know it. [silverglint]
yes friend but some mannerless people are always interested to others earnings. not only earnings but also age, plans and so on. they never feel how a person will treat him/her for this type of behaviour. [shibham]